4 steps to get that hot girl

So you've read the theory; but can you teach an awkward, nervous nerd how to zero in on a beautiful target and get her back to his boudoir in a matter of hours? Vicky Kalwani is a Mumbai-based banker by day, dating expert by night, who offers private classes on how tosnare smoking-hot ladies without taking on a bank loan or a personal trainer. He gives us some of his top tips.
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Do Real Men Wear Halloween Costumes?
Justin Bridges: I don't consider myself a Halloween junkie, but I do think this holiday is a great excuse for men to not take themselves too seriously. Costumes are a great way to pull your head out of spreadsheets and have some drinks while pretending to be something that doesn't even exist in real life. Or, for the not so adventurous, you can take on a look like James Bond's. Why not get laid along with all the free candy?
Austin Wong: You won't get laid again after she sobers up and realizes what's behind the mask. Not wearing a Halloween costume during Halloween is actually the ultimate costume. Sure, you stand out, but at least you don't look like you were dumb enough to spend $50 on a 100-percent polyester robe (that shit is not canvassed, pick-stitched, or even hand finished). Last year, I took the risk and wore the "ultimate costume." Some girl asked me what I was, and I replied "the best dressed one here."
JB: But guys who don't dress up are just afraid to express themselves. It's as if being outside of your norm is like traversing the Wild West. Men are too serious. So what, you look unpolished for one evening? Not going to kill you. The guys that seem to enjoy Halloween the most, anyway, are the ones that wear polos, shredded jeans, and flip flops on the weekend. Any costume seems like a better option than that.
AW: To be honest, I already feel like I'm wearing a costume among many of the men in New York. I realize we no longer live in the 50s and 60s, but everyone just seems way too dressed down these days. How is it acceptable that "dressing up" requires only one thing: a collared button-down shirt? Let's be real, most guys look like slobs year round. The only day they can really "dress up" is Halloween. I'm usually always a bit dressed, so I don't feel the need to change that.
JB: Yeah, you just have to be vulnerable on that night to the jokes that are bound to ensue. Maybe a man is too prideful to dress like a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle at the age of 26? Sure.
AW: At the end of the day, we who are interested in men's wear are always in "costume" (well, most of us). Not everyone has perfectly-fitted, light-padded Cucinelli jackets, or high-watered Thom Browne suits. We are the ones who are always "vulnerable," having paid our dues 364 days of the year. We are always out of the comfort zone. What is more abnormal than looking (slightly) normal on a day of abnormality?
JB: Yeah, men just want to be cool and collected at all times.
AW: Look, I am no Grinch of Halloween. If you really want to "do" Halloween, stick to the classics. Wear a mask over your best outfit, color-coordinate black and orange, or be Patrick Bateman for Halloween.
JB: Halloween is your time to put whatever you do on a daily basis — albeit slob or men's wear nerd — on hold for five minutes and get wild. I'm not a huge Halloween guy, but think of the detriment to the world if all we did was use this as an opportunity to dress up in better clothes? I'm definitely half asleep and slobbering right now because I can't get behind the idea of a bunch of Thom Browne and Tom Ford wannabes traipsing around.
AW: We can always incorporate our everyday items into our costumes. This strategy does, at least, save some money.
JB: I think the way to take the celebration and make it your own is to be quirky or funny. Show style via personality, not necessarily via wardrobe. For instance, I kind of want to dress up as Waldo, as clichéd as that is, but wear a sign on my shirt that says "Muh-f**** wanna find me!" A little rap reference, you know? Nobody says I can't wear a pair of Church's brogues with Hook + Albert red laces in them to match the shirt. There's nothing wrong with doing the best of both worlds. Be the best-dressed Phantom of the Opera, if you want. You don't have to wear a cheap outfit, and you can definitely pull the suit from your own closet, if you don't mind the chance of beverage spillage.
AW: Justin raises a very valid point. I fully agree that we can all can get into the holiday spirit one way or another. As for me, I will be in my regular suits — the "ultimate costume." More importantly, we all want to do one thing during Halloween and that is party. Happy Halloween. And, as Justin said, I hope everyone gets laid.
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Best Advise: Mind the Beard Line
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Time for belly off
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Seduce Her With Your Fingers
Stand up. Look down. You will see an appendage of amazing erotic ability dangling at waist level — your hand. Use it to massage your mate when she says she wants intimacy and doesn't necessarily mean sex. A massage is romance you can understand. It's practical. And it almost always leads to sex. Start with a good massage oil such as Neal's Yard Remedies Ginger & Juniper Warming Oil ($15 for 1.7 fluid ounces nyr-usa.com) or Naturopathica Arnica Muscle and Joint Massage and Body Oil ($28 for 4 fluid ounces, naturopathica.com). Avoid mineral or baby oils because they are absorbed too quickly into the skin. Don't forget to rub your hands together to warm them before applying the massage oil and the following techniques:
1) Stroke toward the heart.
That means when you're working on her legs, stroke upward. On the arms, stroke downward.
2) Ease in with effleurage.
The French are experts at more than retreating. They know their massage. Effleurage is a simple stroke for loosening her up. It's a light, long rhythmic stroke that generally runs with the grain of the muscle. On her legs, for example, use your cupped palms and gently glide upward. On her back, flatten your hands and broaden your strokes.
3) Play with petrissage.
This circular stroke is designed to squeeze the muscles and wring out tension from the shoulders, upper arms, legs, and buttocks. Use both hands to work the muscles in opposite directions: when stroking her thighs, for example, move one palm away from you as you slide it forward, and move the other toward you.
4) Roll your thumbs.
This is best for working on tension knots. Use your thumbs, one after the other, to press into her flesh, sometimes moving circularly and other times just holding pressure on one point. Lean your weight into it.
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Chase Your Dream
In 1998, Lawrence Rudolph was a TV writer living in Hollywood. Five years later, he's a co-owner of Lunchbox Food Co., a Greenwich Village diner that the New York Times described as bringing "a fine-dining sensibility to what by rights should be a funky waterfront dive." Here he describes the cost of following his dream.
Is opening a restaurant necessarily a symptom of a midlife crisis? Am I better off just buying a vintage muscle car?
Sports cars are for pussies; restaurants are for real men. The biggest problem you have with cars is changing your Pirellis every 10,000 miles. With a restaurant, your whole life is invested in it, so you can't just sell it if it becomes too much trouble. I employ 30 people. That's 30 families paying for schools, food, mortgages, and rents.
What do you wish somebody had told you before you opened lunchbox?
Don't scrimp on the big hires. As in any organization, one man cannot do it alone. You need the best people around you.
What's the biggest headache you encountered?
I took over an existing restaurant, which is by far the most cost-effective way into a restaurant, especially for a rookie. But this used-restaurant route means cleaning up after someone else's bad decisions.
How is your day organized differently than in your previous job?
It's really two business "days": a nine-to-five part and the after-five part. At five o'clock, we're moving into our third service of the day. We've already finished the business of the restaurant--paying bills, buying plates, and checking in with purveyors. At lunch, customers want to be in and out in 45 minutes, so we can get away with not being on the floor. Dinner, however, is a different story. If a customer's spending $125 on dinner for two, he wants to see that the owner appreciates his business. That's what I do while others are at home watching Friends.
What's it like to be working when everyone else is playing?
Sometimes it can be a drag, but I never took to the nine-to-five world anyway. I find it exciting working at 11 p.m. My office is literally a stage for all experiences. People are laughing, crying, kissing, and living right in front of me.
How do you balance being a husband, a father, and owner of a business that occupies so much of your time?
Your family really has to understand that this is what you do for a living and these are the demands. The good side is that your family can come to the restaurant.
So if it's so much work, why do guys dream about it?
Because they want to be Hugh Hefner or P. Diddy and invite everyone back to their place at the end of the evening. The catch is, Hef and Mr. Combs didn't get everyone to come over without a lot of effort.
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6 Secrets of Dressing Well
The sad truth about men and fashion -- the bar simply isn't very high. But then again, that's also very good news for you.
Look around your office. Go to a party. Most men dress like their women dressed them. That makes looking smart and stylish pretty easy for you to pull off with minimal hand-wringing.
Let us be frank: You are going to have to go shopping. You are going to have to spend some green-probably more than you've ever spent on clothes. But there's not a whole lot to buy. You need good shoes and a well-made suit for important occasions. You need a golf outfit that won't embarrass you. You need casual clothes that aren't jeans and something to wear to cocktails at the CEO's house.
Here are seven intelligent style ideas that'll help you upgrade your wardrobe instantly. You can't go wrong with this basic uniform if it fits you well.
1. A New Suit
The easiest way to upgrade your office look instantly is to add a suit that isn't corporate gray. Be sure the jacket covers your butt completely. Rules: A wider-striped tie accents the solid shirt. A pocket square is a subtle addition that says you pay attention to detail.
2. A Leather Carry-On
Let's banish our black-canvas wheeled carry-ons to the far corner of the attic and forget them. We are not pilots or flight attendants. We are businessmen who travel light. And if we pack right, we can carry a 2-day-trip's worth of clothing in one hand. Look for a bag with two zippered compartments to separate dirty clothes from clean.
3. Serious Golf Wear
Golf clothing is a minefield. Some of the stuff at the pro shops is downright laughable. Let the other guys wear their parrot reds and yellows. Browns and creams are tasteful and handsome. Your shirt should drape loosely about your shoulders.
4. A Summer-Weight Suit
In addition to your lightweight-wool suits, a well-dressed man should own a quality linen suit. Most men get their suit sleeves too long. At least a half inch of shirt should show at the wrist. To look even sharper, make sure your lapels extend halfway or less than halfway out toward the shoulder line of your jacket.
5. Casual Clothes That'll Slim You
Strong vertical pinstripes and deep V-shaped lapels have a slimming effect. It's also a great look for a casual evening out. Rule of thumb whenever going out with a woman: Dress a third nicer than what you think looks good, and you'll be dressed appropriately.
6. An Outfit with an Edge
If you try too hard to look youthful, you'll look like you're trying. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't push the envelope a bit. A leather jacket in tan or cream is smart. Leather breathes, and it blocks the wind--good for cool summer nights. Flat-front trousers will make you look taller and thinner. Ankle-length suede boots update a classic style.
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Six Key Money Moves
Most men treat their investment portfolios the way they treat loose change: The money's all scattered around, tucked away here and there; some of it's right where we need it, and some of it's under the sofa cushions.
Consider your own portfolio. Chances are, you've spent the past 15 or more years investing, securing assets, and building substantial wealth. But do you really know what you have, where it is, and how it has performed?
With stocks you can't even remember buying and money-market funds with various brokerages, it's easy to join the throngs of disorganized, careless investors. Just 21 percent of active investors regularly review account statements, read prospectuses, check out the backgrounds of their brokers, and have a financial strategy, according to a poll of 2,000 people conducted for the federal Securities Investor Protection Corporation.
Not staying on top of your finances is a major source of mental (and marital) stress. Who needs that? Here's a simple strategy to organize your financial life and improve the health of your wealth in just 20 minutes.
KNOW WHERE YOU ARE
Sit down at a large table with all of your financial statements, and list your assets on a legal pad. Be as exhaustive as possible: Review such holdings as money-market funds, 401(k) earnings, and college savings accounts.
Count
Add up the number of mutual funds you own. According to the Investment Company Institute, the average American investor holds four mutual funds. How many do you own? Double that? Triple? That's a red flag that your portfolio may be spread too thin. And you may find you have duplicate investments with several brokerages.
Consolidate
If, for example, you own several money-market funds in different brokerage houses, take a few minutes to move all of those liquid assets under the same roof. It takes just a phone call or Web order. Not only will you find your assets easier to track, but you may also save some money on annual fees. For instance, Schwab charges $45 per quarter for basic accounts worth less than $10,000 -- evidence of how maintenance fees from a few investments scattered about can add up. Look to consolidate other holdings, such as stocks, funds, and bonds, so they're less expensive and less time-consuming to follow.
GET RID OF PAPER
Have your account statements delivered via e-mail rather than snail mail. It takes just a few minutes to authorize paperless delivery, and it's a smart choice. Why? First of all, you'll save time by avoiding bales of paper statements that you'll eventually have to shred. If you can download your electronic statements into a financial-planning program (a solid one is Quicken 2006), tracking progress and potential problem areas becomes much easier and more time-efficient.
Second, now that identity theft tops $52 billion annually, digital transactions are safer than paper ones. According to a recent study by Javelin Strategy & Research, of Pleasanton, California, more than 68 percent of reported identity-fraud incidents are paper based, while less than 12 percent originate online. Reasons: It is harder for thieves to access Internet-based data, and online accounts tend to be checked more often, which nabs thieves sooner. "Shredding is overrated. All thieves have to do is go through your mailbox or garbage cans to get documents," says Javelin president James Van Dyke. "When you cut paper use, you cut that risk."
SET BENCHMARKS
Too many of us invest and save without a firm grasp on what we want to achieve. If that's you, earmark those objectives in detail. Be exceedingly specific. If, for instance, you're worth $500,000 now, set a goal of reaching $600,000 in 5 years. "The more detailed your objectives, the more focused your plan will be," says Jason Papier, a Sunnyvale, California, financial planner. "Money is an enabler, but you need to know specifically what you want to accomplish." Use an online calculator like this one to see what rate of return and additional savings you'll need to reach your goals.
If you have kids, don't just "save for college." Instead, figure out how much of the cost you will likely have to bear. Start by estimating future college costs by institution with the Princeton Review website. The site can also help you determine your chances of securing financial aid.
PUT OUT THE DOGS
The funny thing about mutual funds is that the "growth" fund you bought 15 years ago may have become a lot more conservative with age. Even worse, a fund heralded as a champion at one point may have turned into a dog. Case in point: Fidelity's Magellan fund was an Oprah-like celebrity with world-beating returns in the 1970s and '80s. However, Magellan has lagged the S&P 500 by 2.5 annualized percentage points over the past 3 years. "It's an 'index hugger,'" says Shannon Zimmerman, the advisor behind the Motley Fool Champion Funds mutual-fund newsletter service. "The very small bets it's made relative to the S&P haven't panned out."
X-ray your funds
Morningstar.com has a free service called "Instant X-ray" that'll give you a detailed picture of a fund's holdings and overall investment approach. Run stocks through it as well as 401(k) holdings.
Check for overlap
Services such as Morningstar help you not only dissect what you own but also uncover investments that are too similar. If nothing else, having too many similar holdings goes against the basics of diversification. "Many mutual funds and 401(k) portfolios have overlapping securities because money managers are always chasing 'hot ideas,'" says Lyle Wolberg,
of Telemus Wealth Management, in Southfield, Michigan. "You may find that your 10 different funds own virtually the same stocks."
Look out for investor bloat
A well-managed fund will often close to new investors. If your fund continually accepts them, beware. The performance of certain types of funds can be affected if they are constantly taking in new money. Call your fund company to check which of your mutual funds are still open to new investors.
Track performance
See how the fund has grown in assets since you bought it. Even funds that are not closed can be solid performers, provided they simply haven't gotten too big. Ask your broker or the fund company for the size of the asset base at inception and the fund's current size. Then check the concentration of holdings. "It's more art than science, but generally speaking, the more concentrated the fund's portfolio is, the more the size of its asset base can create a drag on the fund," says Zimmerman. "When the fund becomes too large and lethargic, it's difficult for managers to stake out meaningful positions in off-the-beaten-path equities. Few will take that risk."
Compare costs
When shopping for funds, utilize new Web sites that make it easy to compare expenses. The National Association of Securities Dealers offers free tools, including the Mutual Fund Expense Analyzer and the Mutual Fund Breakpoint Search Tool, the latter of which allows you to search for commission discounts. Likewise, indexuniverse.com is a free site that offers a function for screening index funds and exchange-traded funds (ETFs).
BUILD "SILOS"
Now is the time to build financial "silos." Like agricultural silos, in which farmers store specific types of grain, these are logical groupings that match investments, assets, and risk to particular financial objectives. Often, as we accumulate investments and assets, we latch on to holdings that are attractive but really don't match up with a genuine objective. Grab a sheet of paper and list the specific investment goals you identified earlier, such as planning for retirement or owning a vacation home. Then match up every investment and asset to one of those goals. If some of your investments lack clear objectives, that's another powerful argument for change.
Building silos for all of your goals can efficiently assess the need for adjustments and also avoid critical mistakes, such as assigning aggressive investments to a goal that doesn't mandate high risk. "It's a fast way to delineate risk and return," says Wolberg.
BOOST RETIREMENT SAVINGS
Most financial planners recommend that households be ready to replace 85 percent of their annual preretirement income each year during retirement. If you own a business, ask your financial advisor to look into 412(i) plans, which have significantly larger contribution limits than do other programs, as well as some tax advantages. To learn more, click here.
Consider a variable annuity
If you are an employee and have already maxed out contributions to your 401(k), look into funding an annuity. Your earnings will be tax-deferred, and you'll eventually receive a series of payments for the rest of your life.
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8 Foods You Should eat everyday
Spinach
It may be green and leafy, but spinach is also the ultimate man food. This noted biceps builder is a rich source of plant-based omega-3s and folate, which help reduce the risk of heart disease, stroke, and osteoporosis. Bonus: Folate also increases blood flow to the penis. And spinach is packed with lutein, a compound that fights age-related macular degeneration. Aim for 1 cup fresh spinach or ½ cup cooked per day. SUBSTITUTES: Kale, bok choy, romaine lettuce FIT IT IN: Make your salads with spinach; add spinach to scrambled eggs; drape it over pizza; mix it with marinara sauce and then microwave for an instant dip. PINCH HITTER: Sesame Stir-Braised Kale Heat 4 cloves minced garlic, 1 Tbsp. minced fresh ginger, and 1 tsp. sesame oil in a skillet. Add 2 Tbsp. water and 1 bunch kale (stemmed and chopped). Cover and cook for 3 minutes. Drain. Add 1 tsp. soy sauce and 1 Tbsp. sesame seeds.
Yogurt
Various cultures claim yogurt as their own creation, but the 2,000-year-old food’s health benefits are not disputed: Fermentation spawns hundreds of millions of probiotic organisms that serve as reinforcements to the battalions of beneficial bacteria in your body, which boost the immune system and provide protection against cancer. Not all yogurts are probiotic though, so make sure the label says “live and active cultures.” Aim for 1 cup of the calcium- and protein-rich goop a day. SUBSTITUTES: Kefir, soy yogurt FIT IT IN: Yogurt topped with blueberries, walnuts, flaxseed, and honey is the ultimate breakfast—or dessert. Plain low-fat yogurt is also a perfect base for creamy salad dressings and dips. HOME RUN: Power Smoothie Blend 1 cup low-fat yogurt, 1 cup fresh or frozen blueberries, 1 cup carrot juice, and 1 cup fresh baby spinach for a nutrient-rich blast.
Tomatoes
here are two things you need to know about tomatoes: Red are the best, because they’re packed with more of the antioxidant lycopene, and processed tomatoes are just as potent as fresh ones, because it’s easier for the body to absorb the lycopene. Studies show that a diet rich in lycopene can decrease your risk of bladder, lung, prostate, skin, and stomach cancers, as well as reduce the risk of coronary artery disease. Aim for 22 mg of lycopene a day, which is about eight red cherry tomatoes or a glass of tomato juice. SUBSTITUTES: Red watermelon, pink grapefruit, Japanese persimmon, papaya, guava FIT IT IN: Pile on the ketchup and Ragú; guzzle low-sodium V8 and gazpacho; double the amount of tomato paste called for in a recipe. PINCH HITTER: Red and Pink Fruit Bowl Chop 1 small watermelon, 2 grapefruits, 3 persimmons, 1 papaya, and 4 guavas. Garnish with mint.
Carrots
Most red, yellow, or orange vegetables and fruits are spiked with carotenoids—fat-soluble compounds that are associated with a reduction in a wide range of cancers, as well as reduced risk and severity of inflammatory conditions such as asthma and rheumatoid arthritis—but none are as easy to prepare, or have as low a caloric density, as carrots. Aim for ½ cup a day. SUBSTITUTES: Sweet potato, pumpkin, butternut squash, yellow bell pepper, mango FIT IT IN: Raw baby carrots, sliced raw yellow pepper, butternut squash soup, baked sweet potato, pumpkin pie, mango sorbet, carrot cake PINCH HITTER: Baked Sweet Potato Fries Scrub and dry 2 sweet potatoes. Cut each into 8 slices, and then toss with olive oil and paprika. Spread on a baking sheet and bake for 15 minutes at 350°F. Turn and bake for 10 minutes more.
Blueberries
Host to more antioxidants than any other popular fruit, blueberries help prevent cancer, diabetes, and age-related memory changes (hence the nickname “brain berry”). Studies show that blueberries, which are rich in fiber and vitamins A and C, boost cardiovascular health. Aim for 1 cup fresh blueberries a day, or ½ cup frozen or dried. SUBSTITUTES: Açai berries, purple grapes, prunes, raisins, strawberries FIT IT IN: Blueberries maintain most of their power in dried, frozen, or jam form. PINCH HITTER: Açai, an Amazonian berry, has even more antioxidants than the blueberry. Mix 2 Tbsp. of açai powder into OJ or add 2 Tbsp. of açai pulp to cereal, yogurt, or a smoothie.
Black Beans
All beans are good for your heart, but none can boost your brain power like black beans. That’s because they’re full of anthocyanins, antioxidant compounds that have been shown to improve brain function. A daily ½-cup serving provides 8 grams of protein and 7.5 grams of fiber, and is low in calories and free of saturated fat. SUBSTITUTES: Peas, lentils, and pinto, kidney, fava, and lima beans FIT IT IN: Wrap black beans in a breakfast burrito; use both black beans and kidney beans in your chili; puree 1 cup black beans with ¼ cup olive oil and roasted garlic for a healthy dip; add favas, limas, or peas to pasta dishes. HOME RUN: Black Bean and Tomato Salsa Dice 4 tomatoes, 1 onion, 3 cloves garlic, 2 jalapeños, 1 yellow bell pepper, and 1 mango. Mix in a can of black beans and garnish with ½ cup chopped cilantro and the juice of 2 limes.
Walnuts
Richer in heart-healthy omega-3s than salmon, loaded with more anti-inflammatory polyphenols than red wine, and packing half as much muscle-building protein as chicken, the walnut sounds like a Frankenfood, but it grows on trees. Other nuts combine only one or two of these features, not all three. A serving of walnuts—about 1 ounce, or seven nuts—is good anytime, but especially as a postworkout recovery snack. SUBSTITUTES: Almonds, peanuts, pistachios, macadamia nuts, hazelnuts FIT IT IN: Sprinkle on top of salads; dice and add to pancake batter; spoon peanut butter into curries; grind and mix with olive oil to make a marinade for grilled fish or chicken. HOME RUN: Mix 1 cup walnuts with ½ cup dried blueberries and ¼ cup dark chocolate chunks.
Oats
The éminence grise of health food, oats garnered the FDA’s first seal of approval. They are packed with soluble fiber, which lowers the risk of heart disease. Yes, oats are loaded with carbs, but the release of those sugars is slowed by the fiber, and because oats also have 10 grams of protein per ½-cup serving, they deliver steady muscle-building energy. SUBSTITUTES: Quinoa, flaxseed, wild rice FIT IT IN: Eat granolas and cereals that have a fiber content of at least 5 grams per serving. Sprinkle 2 Tbsp. ground flaxseed on cereals, salads, and yogurt. PINCH HITTER: Quinoa Salad Quinoa has twice the protein of most cereals, and fewer carbs. Boil 1 cup quinoa in a mixture of 1 cup pear juice and 1 cup water. Let cool. In a large bowl, toss 2 diced apples, 1 cup fresh blueberries, ½ cup chopped walnuts, and 1 cup plain fat-free yogurt.
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Gym Advise
Abs machines can be part of that variety, but researchers at San Diego State University found that body-weight movements, such as the bicycle crunch, bum up to 250 percent more calories than any otr*er kind of abs exercise*
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Gym Advise
Abs machines can be part of that variety, but researchers at San Diego State University found that body-weight movements, such as the bicycle crunch, bum up to 250 percent more calories than any otr*er kind of abs exercise*
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