Change Is Inevitable. Here's How To Handle It.
Change Is Inevitable. Here's How To Handle It.
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"When you're feeling unsure about the change in your life, turn to those close to you for a fresh point of view and to help make your change seem more familiar."
Change can be hard. This is especially true for men since they tend to be creatures of habit. Some habits or ruts are comfortable, which is OK, but sometimes a necessary change needs to occur. For that reason, it’s a good idea to understand the process of change. Equipping yourself with the tools to deal with and embrace change will effectively ease difficult transition periods.
Keep in mind that change, even if it is tricky to maneuver, is not always bad. New girlfriends or changes in relationships, new jobs or relocating for a new career are changes that may enrich your life. I’ve outlined some tips on how to accept, deal with and embrace such changes as they come your way. As you read, keep in mind that changes in life mean that you’re growing as a person.
Focus on the good things
When faced with a change that will entirely upset your life, it can be really easy to dwell on all the negative aspects. For instance, moving in with your girlfriend can evoke terrifying images of her sitting around all day in her sweats nagging you, or of not being able to invite the guys over for a boozy game of poker. Instead of focusing on the aspects you won’t like, think of all the great things the change will bring, such as sharing a bed with her, early morning nooky and fresh sheets. Although the move will still be a huge adjustment, you will find yourself more into the idea and ready to embrace the change. The best way to keep on top of this sort of fear is to keep a mental repertoire of the things you look forward to in the change, and pull them out as needed to keep yourself calm and happy. Try to think of new and exciting things to anticipate, and if you’re really in doubt, ask others for help in coming up with them.
Involve those around you in the change
It’s easy to have a one-track mind when you’re faced with a big change. Use your support systems; family and friends are invaluable when it comes to making you realise what a great thing is happening to you. They are able to put a positive spin on the change because they have a whole different perspective on your life and will, therefore, consider elements that you haven’t. So, when you’re feeling unsure about the change in your life, turn to those close to you for a fresh point of view and to help make your change seem more familiar. If you have to move to a new city, ask your friends to help you move there or tour the city with you. These types of activities will make the change feel friendlier, and you’ll look forward to it in no time.
Be open-minded about the change
Chances are that you detest the thought of change because you’re happy with the way things are. You may feel that because you like the way things are now, it’s the only way you’ll ever like them. It’s important to recognise that there are many situations that will make you happy, and sticking to the one that you’re comfortable with might actually cause you to miss out on all the others. Also, be aware that it’s sometimes necessary to relinquish control of your destiny in favor of what falls in your lap.
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